about tj

tantric massage therapist, bodywork practitioner, somatic sex educator, erotic shaman, family constellation practitioner, and tantra meditation and sex magic practitioner, based in London. I work from two locations: Stanmore, where I offer the full range of my practice, and a private studio in central London (Leicester Square).

I didn't set out to be a practitioner. I set out to understand myself.

Growing up between cultures, navigating my identity as a gay man, carrying things I didn't yet have words for — I found my way to the body almost by accident. Yoga first. Then meditation. Then a slow realisation that the answers weren't in my head. They were stored in sensation, in breath, in the places the body goes quiet or tight without explanation.

That became a calling.

I started as a classical massage therapist in 2012 — trained in Lomi Lomi, Thai Massage, deep tissue, and reflexology. In 2018 that broadened into tantric training, and by 2022 I was adding somatic sex education to the mix. Since 2025 I've been bringing in family constellation tools, working with plant medicine, and diving deeper into ancestral medicine — which feels like the natural next thread of all of it. The qualifications gave me tools. My own life — the therapy, the mistakes, the relationships, the willingness to keep looking honestly at myself — made me the practitioner I am.

What I offer isn't really a menu of techniques, though there are techniques. It's more of a space. Somewhere something waiting can start to move. Where the body is treated as an intelligence rather than a problem. Where pleasure isn't shameful, curiosity isn't dangerous, and you don't need to edit yourself before walking in.

I work mainly with men — men exploring their body for the first time, men who've been to talk therapists and feel something important still isn't being reached, men carrying things around desire, identity, or intimacy that words haven't yet touched. And plenty who don't have a story about any of this, who are just curious or want to feel good. That's equally welcome.

I'm gay, and most who find me are men. That feels like the right fit and I don't pretend otherwise.

My practice sits on three things: consent and safety at every step — not as procedure, but as how sessions actually run; non-judgement as a foundation rather than an aspiration — I've heard a lot in this work, and nothing you bring changes how you're received; and embodiment — the understanding that real change comes through the body learning something new, not just the mind understanding it.

I began training in 2012 and have been working full-time in London since 2016. I've sat with men at the start of something and with men who've been coming back for years. Each session is different. Each person brings something I haven't quite seen before. That's what keeps this alive for me.

If something here lands — a word, a sentence, a feeling you can't quite name — reach out. You don't need to have it figured out first.

The first conversation is just a conversation.