A testimonial is what someone says when they've run out of reasons not to say it. It's the part after the session — when the body has settled and something has shifted — and they find themselves wanting to put words to it.
I met TJ in early 2025, during what I like to call my “plot twist era.” I had only recently come out to myself — yes, as a fully grown adult — and suddenly found myself thinking, Well… now what? I had no experience, no guidebook, and absolutely no idea what to do with this newly awakened part of me that was screaming “HELLOOO, PAY ATTENTION!”
One day, while wandering the internet (as one does when having an identity crisis), I stumbled across TJ’s Tantra massage videos. His calm presence, the care he showed, the way he connected with people — it all leapt out of the screen and grabbed me. I remember thinking, If I ever manage to have a first experience, I want it to feel like THAT. Soft. Human. Connected.
Then I discovered he had a website.
And he lived in London.
And he offered sessions.
...was the universe trying to tell me something?!?
So I gathered every ounce of courage I had and contacted him. In my head, it was going to be a one‑off meeting. I’ll admit it: I had reservations. Who is this guy? Is this safe? Am I about to star in a cautionary documentary?
But the moment we met, all those worries evaporated. TJ was warm, grounded, and genuinely caring — the kind of person who makes you think, “Oh. Ok. I’m safe. I can breathe.” That first session was… well, let’s just say my brain needed a day or two to readjust afterwards.
My “one‑off” plan didn’t survive very long.
I started seeing TJ regularly, and looking back, it became something much bigger than I expected — basically a full coaching programme disguised as personal development.
And what still amazes me is how easily he could have taken advantage of my vulnerability. I was newly out, inexperienced, and clueless about the gay scene. But instead, he did the opposite — something that still surprises everyone I tell.
Without ever making a big deal of it, he took my growth seriously. He guided me the way a good coach would: gently, respectfully, and always with my wellbeing at the centre.
As I was discovering myself, he’d casually drop little nudges like, “You’re ready for the real world now,” or “So… when are you going to start dating?” Always light, always encouraging, always delivered with the subtlety of a wise mentor who knows exactly what he’s doing.
He even helped me understand the social landscape. Once, he took me to a cruising bar — not to push me into anything, but to show me what those spaces are like, what to expect, what to avoid. It felt like going on a museum tour, except the exhibits were… moving. Another time, we visited a sauna ....for educational purposes. And more than once, he talked to me seriously about safety, boundaries, and wellbeing.
And like any good coach, he helped me overcome my own hesitation. Just the idea of stepping into those environments used to make me nervous, but he never pushed — he nudged, supported, and always made sure I felt in control.
Months passed, and slowly something inside me shifted. I could feel myself changing.
By the end of that same year, I realised I was ready. The world didn’t feel frightening anymore — I had seen it, understood it, and knew how to navigate it. I was finally in touch with my identity, my desires, and my boundaries. I had become confident. Independent. Myself.
I trusted a stranger — TJ. And without me even noticing it at first, he guided me from a place of vulnerability to a place of strength. For that, I will be forever grateful.
Thank you, TJ.
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